Menage a Trois for Two

One of the most common sexual fantasies for men is a menage a trois or aka threesome fantasy. It's not quite as popular for the woman, however, if she would like to give her man a special night to remember, this is a great tip for her as well.

Now even though this is a very popular fantasy and it's completely normal and healthy to fantasize, it's not one I recommend to try and fulfill in reality.

Couples sometimes experiment with threesomes because they think it will spice things up or improve their relationship. This is rarely the case. Things usually get quite messy and it leaves a great deal of aftermath.

When the couples I consult with share with me that they've engaged in a menage a trois, they usually report that it created more problems in their relationship. Sometimes they may enjoy the physical aspect while the event is occurring, but they discover that afterwards they are struggling with a wellspring of emotions and conflict.

Most couples can't engage in threesomes without negative consequences because emotions obtrude. It usually incites feelings of jealousy, fear, insecurity, distrust, inadequacy as well as disrespect and even loathing of self or partner for some.

In order for a couple to engage in threesome activity with "comfort" and have it not destroy their relationship, the relationship must already be a very strong and stable one. Good communication skills must already be in place before participating in this kind of activity. Each party involved must be extremely mature, self-aware and capable of expressing their needs.

The couple must be able to set boundaries for what each party involved is comfortable with, and what kind of expectations each one has. The couple must be able to discuss feelings such as jealousy and fear openly when they come up. Every detail should be discussed thoroughly and many rules and boundaries need to be set prior to the activity.

There are very few couples that have a relationship strong and stable enough to engage in this kind of activity without negative consequences. If you are fortunate enough to have a strong and stable relationship, then why bother risking it by engaging in a menage a trois. You're much better off concentrating on one another and combating sexual boredom with creativity as a couple.

Bringing a third party into a relationship erodes intimacy and this is the exact opposite of what a couple needs when trying to spice things up. The way to improve a relationship and have more exciting and satisfying sex is to deepen intimacy.

And a great way to deepen intimacy is to explore sexual fantasies as a menage a deux, which brings us to this great little product called the menage a trois for two.